Thursday, April 22, 2010

an update....

Thanks for all your notes regarding my father-in-law. Tom decided to fly rather than drive to Florida and left the house before 5am this morning. We are not sure how long he'll be down there, but he's cleared his calendar for 3 weeks. (He bought a one way ticket down there in order to allow for flexibility.)

Tom is very optimistic that his father will make a full recovery, but time will tell. Tomorrow he sees the neurologist.

Tom's parents still live in the same house they have for over 55 years. His father is the primary care-giver for his mother who has dementia and is in a wheelchair. He has help come in several hours a day six days a week. Obviously, he really needs more help now not only for her, but now also for himself.

What a difference a week makes--last week at this time everything was "normal". Life really comes full-circle when we must care for those who at one time cared for us.

Things will be very quiet here....I'm not looking forward to being alone for so long, so if you have time, keep those notes coming.

17 comments:

FayeRaye said...

I will pray for both of your in laws.... Baby boomers with aging parents are tough sometimes...Hang in there~! Faye

Margaret said...

Oh Ellen, I hope everything works out and Tom's father has a quick recovery. You're so right -- it's hard when we become the caregivers for our parents. Hang in there, and tell Tom that good thoughts and prayers are going his way for his father, his mother and him.

Nancy said...

I do hope things go in the right direction for everyone Ellen. Will be thinking of all of you.

Lee said...

Oh my. I'm thinking of you and hoping that you and your husband find the help and support you'll need as you care for his parents.

Laurie in Iowa said...

(((Ellen)))... sending hugs and positive thoughts your way for your FIL's speedy recovery and Tom's safe travels.

Sandra said...

I'm sure you will fine on your own Ellen and maybe you can get the extra smalls for Mrs Waddelow all designed and stitched up while it is quiet. I'll be sending you some photos shortly, just as soon as I can locate them - we have a new computer and things seem to have disappeared into little black holes.

Barb said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you both. My husband and I have just gone through a very similar experience in my family.

valerie said...

I hope that everything turns out well with your FIL. What a difficult situation to be in. *hugs*

N E E D L E P R I N T said...

Dear Ellen and Tom we hope for the best for you all as always and we send you our love Jacqueline and Richard

JulieH said...

My thoughts & prayers are with you & Tom & his parents going through this difficult time. Sending positive thoughts for a speedy, complete recovery!

Julie H

Patti said...

I really hope that things get better. I can't stand the thought of getting really old (instead of just sort of old) and needing somebody to care for me.
Lots of Love
Patti xxx

Sheila said...

Sending prayers for your FIL. Also wanted to say what a very CUTE little boy Hayden is. He has such a happy, and cheeky, face :)

Jean said...

Keeping you'all in my thoughts and prayers, I have been in your shoes, I know how hard it is but you know we are all here for you.

Sherry said...

Best wishes and prayers for a speedy recovery of your father-in-law. Hope your week w/o your hubby passes quickly. Sherry H.

Charlene ♥ SC said...

Sending healing and peaceful thoughts to you and the fammily. Keep stitching and blogging to ease your mind...

Bethany said...

You know your family is our my prayers. John and I wish you and Tom all the best. It must be quite different with Tom gone. Do your best to stay busy, that will help.

Karan said...

Keeping you in my thoughts during this difficult time.